One of the things that you will
need as an essential tool for your new dating life, or as a way
to initiate a date in the first place ifs - FLIRTING! Flirting
is fun, it's healthy, and it's one of the greatest skills you
will ever learn!
Flirting is a form of communication
that shows appreciation, attraction, and/or interest. It is of
the moment and should be offered without the expectation of long-term
goals! When you flirt, have only flirting in mind. Don't
think about what it could turn into, because you should flirt
for the enjoyment of putting your positive feelings out there
for someone to enjoy. Flirting should be genuine and sincere,
not flighty and irresponsible. The ability to flirt is the ability
to take control of yourself and have an impact on the world! It
can't be stressed enough that flirting is to make someone else
feel good about themselves. When properly achieved, it is healthy,
enjoyable, and refreshing for both people involved.
Now the biggest question is "How
do I flirt?!?" Good, because that's my next answer! Two BIG
words: EYE CONTACT! It is the absolute most important part of
flirting! Make eye contact with your target. Glance away on occasion
- this is very important because otherwise you'll appear to be
staring. Once you've established eye contact, smile. REALLY smile
- not the little grin you offer your teacher when you hand in
a test - offer a heartfelt smile. A smile is the primary form
of nonverbal flirting!
Other forms of nonverbal flirting:
The Wink - There is only one rule for winking:
W.O.O. - Wink Only Once. This is very important! If you wink more
than once, you're not flirting, you're getting something out of
Body Positioning - Make yourself look friendly.
Don't stand straight and cross your arms. That says "GO AWAY!".
Lean a bit and splay your arms and legs about as if to say "COME
Twirling Objects - From drinking straws to ink
pens and peanuts, twirling or fiddling shows you're a little nervous
- it's important to make your target feel more comfortable and
less like a target.
The Touch - Feathery touches and minimal grooming
gestures (such as flicking a piece of dust off of a jacket) are
a way to show interest. Use good judgment here, as you don't want
to invade your target's "space".
Mimic body language - Don't be a parrot, but
if your target shifts to the left leg, you shift the same direction
(your right). It's another subconscious way to set your target
Acronym for FLIRTS:
F - Fun - Flirting is for fun and should not
be used in thought of a long term goal.
L - Listen - Always be attentive to your target.
I -Interest - Flirting shows interest.
R - Responsibility - Don't be a jerk. Make flirting
enjoyable. Don't grope with your eyes.
T - Trust - Flirting is based on trust. You open
yourself to someone else.
S - SMILE!
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